My Parenting Mantra – Raise an Independent Child
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Today I am sharing My Parenting Mantra – Raise Independent Child.
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Raise Independent Child: Specialists dealing with child psychology hold the opinion that children are like a lump of clay you can mold them in any form you desire.
In other words, the first few years of your child is an extremely impressionable stage of life.
Set a parenting mantra for yourself at this stage and raise independent child.
Whatever you do has a direct or indirect effect on your child.
Humans by nature are nurturers and they will always try various ways and means to pamper and take care of their loved ones.
However, it is important that somewhere we draw a line and raise independent child.
I believe in making our kids independent from an early age and so i set my parenting mantra around and i raise independent child.
This is not only beneficial for them but also for us. With 2 kids at home there are times when I want to tear my hair off.
That is when I realize that if we teach our kids small ways to be independent it helps them as well us makes our job of parenting easier.
I believe in raising an independent child and here are my parenting mantras that help me achieve the same.
TREAT THEM AS PER THEIR AGE:
I realized that I was still treating my 5 year old girl like a baby. She was going to school and I was still packing her bags.
I realized that my little one is more than capable of doing this on her own but the only reason why she was not doing the same was “ Me “.
To change this I have stopped treating her like a small baby and ask her to pack her school stuff herself.
Agreed, that I used to supervise her initially but post that she does it on her own. Guess what !! I do not even need to remind her and she does many of the jobs so well.
Some of the tasks includes:
- Setting her own cupboard.
- Put shoes back to their place.
- Hang uniform on hanger after coming from school.
- Put her bag at place
- Water the plants
- Polish shoes for school
- Packing bag for school and
- Making her bed.
ASSIGN WORK TO HER:
As parents we can often become extremely overbearing. We have to realize when it is time for the kids to start doing tasks.
Make them a list of To Do and ask them to do the same daily. This list can include small stuff like tying shoe laces, folding their clothes and putting them at their defined place and so on.
When we are assigning a task to our children we should try and encourage them.
So what if they took 20 minutes extra to pack their bags, the fact that they are doing by themselves.
Always encourage them so that they get motivated.
MAKE THEM FEEL IMPORTANT:
When you are assigning a particular task to them tell them why you are assigning them the same.
I sat down with my daughter and made her understand that she is old and responsible now and I am sorry for treating her as a small kid.
I told her that I knew in my heart that she can do tasks like making her own bed at night.
This small pep talk made her feel important and ever night without fail she makes her own bed.
Also, the best part being she enjoys doing the chore as she feels important doing the same.
DO NOT MICROMANAGE:
Another thing I consciously try and avoid doing is to micromanage my kids.
As adults we have a tendency of always being on the lookout of our kids.
We do not realize but at times we might end up being a tad bit overbearing in nature.
Kids might get intimidated by our constant monitoring.
It is important that we give them space and also allow them to do the task at their own pace.
this is another problem with us parents when we leave a chore to be done by the kids we must be realistic in terms of the results.
Like, when I ask my little one to sort out the dirty clothes from the clean one’s I am prepared that the results will not be 100 % accurate.
Be realistic that this job is done by a 5 year old girl and not an adult.
The fact that they are doing the chore by themselves is what makes the difference and what actually matters in the long run.
You know what drives your kids to take responsibilities and finish the task at hand – a word of praise from you.
So, ensue that you always praise your baby.
Encourage them at whatever they do. No matter how sloppy the results are ensure that you praise them.
Sit down with them later and show them another way to do the chore that will be easier and simpler.
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There are many ways of parenting.
Various people across the world are known to follow various schools of parenting.
Ensure that you choose the mantra for your kids that would suit them.
Keep in mind that every child is unique and each one will react to a way of teaching in a different manner.
So here was my parenting mantra on Raising Independent child.
Do share yours with me too and i hope you enjoyed reading my parenting mantra – raising independent child?