Having children is a life turning point in a woman’s life. Once you are a mother you understand motherhood and many other things associated. After my marriage, I used to wonder about having children and the hassle that goes into it. I often thought it was quite troublesome.
But when I see my children today I am quite proud of myself and also that I went ahead with the decision of having babies. Having a baby pushes you in front of certain realizations which were unimaginable. I remember struggling with the sleepless nights and the tireless days. But looking back at it makes me realize that I became a better person and also grew into another woman with my children.
Often us ladies have had dream of a perfect household. But let me tell you that it doesn’t exist when there is a child included in it. The jewels of your heart will wreak havoc around the house, but along with them, you will also grow multiple qualities in you. Let’s see some changes that motherhood made in me.
HOW MOTHERHOOD HAS CHANGED ME:
- Learning Patience: This is one thing that has made me realize the toils that my mother has gone through. In the initial days of my children, I was a total mess. The un-synchronised lifestyle and the constant need taught me that I need to have more patience. The patience helps me in enduring many things that I couldn’t have tolerated before. It has also helped me in controlling my anger in certain things.
- Imperfection: As I was saying, I as a wife was looking for perfection in everything. My unclean house used to bother me. But after having my girl and going through the tiresome nights, I can tell you that perfection is a myth. My constant fatigue post delivery left the house disorganized and in a total mess. This helped me in setting priorities, and I knew that taking care of my kids is crucial. So, these days even the scattered toys don’t make me very angry. An important motherhood lesson learned.
- Love and Compassion: Often we think that the partner we have will be the only love in our life. But as I became a mother I realized that it is the purest form of love that can exist. As soon as I saw my child the love in me was overwhelming. I also realized that my beautiful kids love me in the most selfless way.
- Trust: I never ever thought that I would be able to give birth to 2 little human beings and even take care of them. I was very much worried about baby hygiene after delivery but as I stepped into motherhood I began to trust myself more. Everything automatically started fallen in place. It was also a confidence that helped me in getting forward in the journey. I would always say that there will be failures. But our will to get over it decides everything.
- Being a better human being: I remember that as a teenager and also as a college student I have passed many sly comments on people. We often do it unknowingly and doesn’t even realize the matter. But as a mother, I have learned to accept that everyone is different. Now when my makeup bag turned into a diaper bag i realized it. My kids have made me less judgmental.
- Motivation: As newlyweds, we often thought of living reckless lives. But my kids made me think about my life seriously. My life now has a goal, and I know that I have to fulfill it. My children also helped me in giving an aim to my life. Every morning when I wake up, I know that someone needs me.
- Accept Changes: I realized soon enough that the track that we often make of our life wouldn’t work after having the baby. Schedules never seemed to work for me even though I calculated them properly. At this time I learned that changes would take place and I have to loosen my constraints to fit them in. It isn’t just a baby in your life. It takes its toll on your married life, on your sleep, mood, body and almost everything that you can imagine.
Like all moms, my children are my world, and I have never regretted having them. As a new mother, we are often overwhelmed and have nothing assorted. But we have to realize that with time everything gets better and smoother. I am also thankful to my husband, parents and brother who was a big support for me every time during my motherhood break-downs. As a mother, I know that working hard for our children is also guilt-free and consists of pure happiness. I hope all mothers have a beautiful time with their children and family.
**This post is a part of the second round of the blog train started by Pooja Kawatra of Mums & Babies where she has brought together 59 mothers from across the globe to share their motherhood journey and experience.
Also, Read Nupur’s take on how motherhood has changed her life.
Nupur, who writes at http://PracticalMum.net, is an army brat who’s now grown to live in and love the maximum city of Mumbai. She’s worked the corridors of financial markets for a decade, and now decided to take up the figurative pen with a little more focus. She shares tales of her journey of raising a little bub in today’s hyper-informative times, while retaining some shreds of sanity!
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